fringey
fringey
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 Posted: Post subject: Re: Sometimes people can get mixed emotions. |
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ctclerk1 wrote: I usually don't write on this subject but recently I met a wonderful woman on here. I wasn't ready for the level of emotion during our talks and ran from it. Does anyone else understand when something likes this happens to you? Let me hear your stories. I have recently talked to her again and am trying to make up for what I did. I don't know if I can undo what I did. Has anyone else gone through this? I am very new to the dating scene so I am making mistakes. Let me know what you all think.
I think we have all run into a relationship that scared us due to an emotional depth we weren't ready for at some point in our life. But, don't sweat the thing. You said you are making mistakes. Ok, but you are learning from your mistakes.
I think the most important thing for anyone who is trying to find someone is to know what you are looking for in that other person. Often, the only way to figure that out is to go through a few relationships with people who AREN'T what you are looking for. That way you can adjust your "list" of what you are looking for.
The most important thing in a relationship truly IS honesty. That means being honest with the other person AND yourself. Your "fight or flee" reaction WAS an honest one. As long as you make the other person understand why you reacted the way you did, then they can either accept it, and you, or move on. If they choose to move on, it doesn't mean either of you is a bad person. Just that you aren't right for each other. Don't let it bring you down.
Dating and relationship are NOT easy things. They don't come with a rule book or set of instructions. Believe me, I have been through some doozies of bad relationships, but I haven't given up. I wouldn't be here if I had. I also learned something about myself with every bad relationship and found ways to work on things in myself that needed the work.
Just be yourself and be honest with yourself and others. That's the key. Of course, you can take this with a grain of salt, as I am obviously NOT relationship expert or I would be in a happy relationship already!
Patrick
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